Sometimes It’s Better to Just Write It Down

I have had quite a week. Stress here, stress there, stress, stress everywhere. And I have taken it all in and let it really make me alternately mad and sad. I’ve hit the peak right now. Because we’re such good friends, I’ll share that I’ve been crying and angry for the last hour or so. Why? Well, it doesn’t really matter. At least not for this forum.

Sometimes, when I’m feeling intense emotion, the best thing I can do is write. I throw words at the page: ANGRY, ENRAGED, STUPID, MAD AS HELL, hurt, ashamed, embarrassed. With each word a little of the emotion leaves my mind because it has a new place to hang out. On the page.

When my brother was very ill, I would go into another room and scribble my feelings and even draw shapes signifying anger or sadness. By basically vomiting them onto the page, I could go back into the room to help my brother feeling lighter and more able to help him.

I hope that by saying that today I feel ANXIOUS ANGRY DUMB MAD SAD INEPT FURIOUS CRAZY and HORRIFIC, I can move forward to see things more clearly.

Doctor, Do You Really Mean It? We All Do This…

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I’ve noticed something interesting. Well, there are a lot of interesting things to notice, but I’ve noticed one in particular recently. People say things without even thinking about the context. Hang on, I’ll explain.

I was at the physical therapy center (long story for a later date) and the nurse said, “Hi, howareyouthiswayplease.” And it struck me that she said “howareyou” as one long word with absolutely no meaning at all.

Okay, I get it. We say, “How are you?” without really thinking about it. But in a medical setting? Seems like they’d want to know. The rest of us are running errands and plowing through the supermarket or just walking in the door. We are being polite if we at least wait for some kind of answer. It’s usually “fine” and that’s great. You’ve asked a question and paused for an answer. Makes sense.

So, the sports medicine doctor comes into the exam room and says, “Hello, nicetomeetyouhowareyouwhydon’tyousituponthetable?” There it was again “howareyou.”

I’ve had reason to see several doctors over the last several months and it’s the same in every one of them. At the last few appointments, when the first nurse calls my name in the waiting room and leads me in and asks, “How are you?” I quickly reply, “Polite greeting or real question?” I do the same for any other techs or staff and even the doctor.

“Polite greeting or real question?” stops them in their tracks. They actually have to think back to what they’ve said and what I said and wonder what the hell I’m talking about. I get a lot of “what?” or “Um…” or even “What do you mean?” and I explain that I would like to know if they are only asking how I am as a polite greeting or do they actually want to know how I am. I can summarize. You know, not bore them with every detail of how I am. I could say, “Well, my pain is better than last week.” I could say, “I have a lot going on, but I’m doing okay.” I could say a lot of things. Especially about doctor’s offices, fees, and insurances, but I could really just give a summary or maybe even a “fine” if I had the chance.

We all do this at one time or another. And usually it is just a polite greeting. But once in a great while, someone isn’t fine. And just maybe that person needs someone else to know it. You may not want to give them your time, but they sure would appreciate it. It may be that the person has just had something wonderful happen and they can’t wait to share it with someone else. Next time you ask someone, “How are you?” give them a chance to say something; anything. You never know when the answer will be something amazing, whether it’s a polite greeting or a real question in return.

Missing in Action

You may, or may not, have noted my absence since the Unicorn Writers Conference. This is related to the fact that I sustained an injury during that trip that caused multiple complications that are ongoing. I’ll be back… I promise. And I’ll tell you more about it.

State of the Website Address

pink backhoeIt’s time for an update/overhaul from the Verge. I haven’t been updating in anticipation of the change, so please be patient. A new look with new content will be coming this summer.

If you can’t wait… you actually have no choice. But you can connect with me on LinkedIn where I blog on occasion.

Watch for a new site in this very spot from the Verge in mid-July.

I’ve Been on the Verge

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You may have noticed my absence around here lately. Or maybe you didn’t, which is just as well because I wasn’t here and it wouldn’t have done you any good to look for me here anyway. The reason for my absence is actually a mishmash of reasons all balled up together in one big clump of stuff.

I won’t get all TMI on you, but I’ve been dealing with some health issues, my mother and sister have had some health issues, and to be completely honest, I am having a little trouble figuring out life without my brother. It’s been a little over a year, but somehow I keep thinking I should be calling him or texting him or thinking how much he would love the book I’m reading and then his death slaps me in the face again.

While I have been neglecting you, I have posted some things on LinkedIn. Feel free to go read them. They may or may not interest you.

I’m reading The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt and am over-the-moon that Harper Lee is releasing another book. Of course, it won’t be able to compare with To Kill a Mockingbird, but it will be good. How could it not be good?

I have a question for you. Well, for those of you that are real people and not the ones who just want their random links on my page. What do you want to talk about here? Writing? Reading? My business? Books? Some of those awful Oscar gowns? Why John Travolta looks like a mannequin? The perfection of Neil Patrick Harris?

Speak up, will you? I feel as though I’m talking to myself. And, yes, I do talk to myself, but I’d like to talk to  you. What say you? Whatcha’ wanna talk about?

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